You Might Be A Wannabe (Subs)

You Might Be A Wannabe (Subs)

If you don't know what "R/L" means... you might be a Wannabe

If you think it's not necessary to communicate what you need or want to your Dom because what you want is not important... you might be a Wannabe

If you've never considered the possibility that your online Master is really a 14-year-old named Jason... you might be a Wannabe.

If you think being collared and spanked online qualifies you as an experienced sub... you might be a Wannabe.

If you think you have no limits... you might be a Wannabe

If you think using your safeword means you're not a "real" sub... you might be a Wannabe

If you consent to wearing a Dom/Domme's brand at your first R/L session with Him or Her... you might be a Wannabe

If you think bruises and broken limbs are standard bdsm play....you might be a Wannabe

If you think you must have total respect for anyone who calls himself/herself Dom/Domme... you might be a Wannabe

If you think the best sub is the one who can stand the most pain... you might be a Wannabe

If you think R/L is just like cyber... you might be a Wannabe

If you consent your first live meet with a Dom/me without using a safety net... you might be a Wannabe

If you think being a sub is all about being abused... you might be a Wannabe

If you think CBT means "Come and Bring Toys"... you might be a Wannabe

If you have to remove your collar so your Master can walk his dog... you might be a Wannabe (and your Dom is really cheap)

If you think sub-space is the cage a Dom keeps His or Her sub in... you might be a Wannabe

If you think enemas are only given for medicinal purposes...you might be a Wannabe

If you think submission means never saying "no"... you might be a Wannabe

If you have to spit out your chewing tobacco before you can be gagged... you might be a redneck as well as a Wannabe

a joke

One day Mom was cleaning junior's room and in the closet she found a bondage S+M magazine. This was highly upsetting for her.
She hid the magazine until his father got home and showed it to him.
He looked at it and handed it back to her without a word.
She finally asked him, " Well what should we do about this?"
Dad looked at her and said, "Well I don't think you should spank him."

about my submission

As I look back on my life, I have always been a people pleaser. I have always felt better when the people around me were comfortable and had their needs met. My father had a very Dominant personality, and always demanded nothing but my best in everything. I was always striving to do anything to make him proud. As my Father passed on, I found myself empty, as I grew and began having relationships I would find myself with men whom were demanding and almost impossible to please. This continued through out my adult years. When I was in my early 20's I met a man that changed my life and made me crave something that I did not understand. I remember those familiar feelings of needing and wanting to please come rushing back and this too confused me. He added a twist that I did not expect, He punished me when i displeased him, or broke a rule he had laid down. Without knowing it I had my first taste (no matter how unhealty) of this lifestyle without knowing what it was. He started out as using anal as the utmost punishment for severe offences. It went as far as making me sit in the livingroom floor with my back to the T.V. while he would watch one of my favorite programs, to standing me in the corner, or a sound spanking with a belt. I did not understand why i craved this sort of attention and why it felt so comforting to me. So i would run from it, I would stay away weeks sometimes months at a time. I would start another relationship, and it would be missing what i had come acustom to. So no matter where I was, I would find myself calling Him begging Him to forgive me, and let me come home. He of course would with consequences to my behavior. Finally in my, ignorance of what I was, and my inability to accept that it was ok to have the feelings that I had He let me go. I stayed out of relationships for about 2 years when I had met my first husband, He was very vanilla and very abusive, it lasted for the longest 5 years of my life. A very good friend of mine took me by the hand, and sat me down He told me all about this wonderful lifestyle, He was tired of seeing me bounce from unhealthy relationships. He introduced me to the castle realm web site. I began reading, I soon realized that being submissive is not a feeling but a need, A need that is rooted deep within your soul and in your makeup as a person. That it is ok to want to please a man, to be there for him in all his needs, and it is ok for me to feel the need for correction when I fall short of being the best that I can for him and a safe way to do it. I will always be submissive, in or out of this lifestyle because it is part of who I am. I choose to want to give my gift to a man who knows what it is that I offer, one who will cherrish it, nurture it, and help it grow into something beautiful.

Bare bottom

The things I think about....(more ramblings)

I think about what I am missing out on as a submissive without the guidance of a Master. I think about the instruction and direction that I long for, The structure of a controled inviroment, The passions of the electric bond that only a Master/sub/slave can have. I so long for the deep bond and trust that is apart of such a relationship. My heart burns and aches to belong to someone for that sence of self that you can only get from such a bond. I long for the simple honesty that it holds the communication and connection. Yes I also miss the sexual side of the relationship as well. But to me the real turn on is the control side of it all, the mental aspect of the dynamics of such a relationship is so simple yet so complicated at the same time. I miss the equality of the strengths and weaknesses and the balance that a Master and a sub/slave can achive. I still strive onwards searching watching and waiting. One day this will come to me. One day I will have all of this and more. Till then I hope and dream.

ramblings

Well once again i find myself craving the lifestyle i so desire to live. I have decided to try one more online Dom, hopefully this time i found one whom will be better at this than the others. It is really difficult to find someone who really is a Dom and not just playing like it. I will keep you posted on how it pans out.

Progress

I do not come to you as a Woman or as an ethnic group, I come to you as a Mother, a Mother whom does not understand, after all the progress we have made as human beings, that we have not moved beyond hurting one another. Two of my sons live together in about one of the worst neighborhoods that one could live in. My youngest son was at home alone, while my eldest son was coaching a pee wee football game. As my son sat at home playing a video game 4 men came through the back door carrying guns, and not just little guns but assult rifles. Ordered him to hit the floor and prceeded to take everything of value that was not bolted down. I consider it an act of a higher power that my son does not lie dead today. That he had enough common sience to just let them take what ever they wanted. That he did not try to be the big hero and save everything they had worked so hard for. That we have to covet what our neighbor has so much we will just bust in your house and help ourselves. They worry about the earth being distroyed, that it is falling apart and if we do not take action the planet will not be around anymore. Well I fear that we will kill ourselves off before anything natural has a chance to kill us. Why is it that we can replace a mans heart but we can not make him love his neighbor as he loves himself? If you are tired of human on human violence pass this around to everyone you know.

A concerned parent
Karen Lee