101 ideas to make Your slave feel Owned

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My Limits

In this lifestyle submissives have certain limits, some of them are Hard (can not be changed)and some of them are pushable.
My limits are as follows....
No Children, No animals, No Blood, No Scat, No Urine play, No Knifeplay or edgeplay, No affixiation, and No Dead people!!!
that is all of my limits so far.
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What a Master should be

I found this on A submissives Journey (http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/masteris.html)
I could not say this better myself....

What a Master should be is like most things in our "Lifestyle", are

personal choices. Each submissive and Dom are different, seeking different

things. In both the lifestyle and BDSM, the level of obedience and pain are

not the same for each person. It is important that you find a Master who

matches your limits, expectations, hopes and dreams. Yet a Master that is

firm enough to take to the depths of submission that you ultimately need

and desire. Here is my opinion what a Master should be.



He is a dominant man , a strong man. He has confidence and control of

Himself, as well a position in society and life. He knows what he wants

from His submissive and life. He is independent, has goals and dreams and

follows them. He stands up for His beliefs. He is an individual and leader.

He respects women and cherishes the one he chooses for His submissive.

He understands, cares, loves and revels in her presence. He is intelligent,

teaches and trains her with understanding and patience. He slowly

possesses her. He gentle pushes her limits, opens her mind to a new world.

He always shows her that she is strong, that her limits are not what she

believes they are. Taking her further than her dreams had previous known,

while giving her confidence and self-esteem. He cherishes, cares, protects,

and loves her. When she is ill, He cares for her. When she is exhausted he

lets her rest, stroking her hair as she drifts off to sleep. He will comfort her

when she need it, calming her fears and emotions. He guides, nurtures, and

inspires her. He knows her better, than she knows herself. He looked in

her heart and soul, holds them in His hands. Her mind is His to read, open

and to expand. Her body is His to feel and pleasure. Her heart is His to

caress, love and protect. She is His heart, mind, soul and body. She places

herself in His care, and becomes His most valued possession. He does not

take away her identity and spirit, but allows her to grow and prosper as

her own being. Her submission to Him is not out of fear for punishment,

but out of love, respect, and trust. She radiates under His love and

guidance.



"What about discipline and punishment ?" you ask. To be handed out firm

but lovingly. He will Never punish in anger. He is her teacher and

trainer; anger has no place when he disciplines her. Punishment doesn't

have to physical it can be psychological. He does not do it to be harsh or

to hurt her, but out of love, devotion and forgiveness.



In my opinion, He should mold her into what He thinks she should be,

but allows her the freedom to grow and live under his loving care. She

becomes the woman; she always been with deep with in her spirit. He

takes her gift of submission seriously; knows it is special and rare; it is

not given freely to All or lightly to any. For she has given Him the gift

of her heart, soul, mind and body. He will give her life wholeness and

satisfaction.

You are Master i am slave

You call my soul
with the snap of
your whip
You heal my wounds
with the kiss of
your lips
your chains bound
my desire
your love sets my
heart on fire
Your comands give
me grace
for you are
Master and i am slave

No More

this poem is dedicated to my sister Sandy whom passed away in 2002

No More...

To hear your laugh

To see your smile

I would walk ten

thousand miles.

To talk to you

To hear your voice

To be with you

Would be my choice

No more hopes

No more dreams

It seems so sad

It seems so mean

No more days

No more years

and your not hear

to whipe my tears

just one more day

Just one more minute

whats my life

without you in it?

Journey of the Tear

i form in the pit of your

heartfrom there the journey starts

you try to keep me held in place

not wanting to let go

not wanting people to see

the things you do not wish to show

despite your efforts i climb slowly to the top

the emotion is to strong

me you can not stop

you quickly wipe me away

as i well up in your eye

but i escape my holding place

as you begin to cry.

Journey of a Tear

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  i form in the pit of your heartand and from there the journey startsyou try to keep me held in placenot wanting to let gonot wanting people to see thethings you do not wish to showdespite your efforts i climbslowly to the topthe emotion is to strongme you can not stopyou quickly wipe me awayas i well up in your eyebut i escape my holding placeas you begin to cry.
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About my submission

As I look back on my life, I have always been a people pleaser. I have always felt better when the people around me were comfortable and had their needs met. My father had a very Dominant personality, and always demanded nothing but my best in everything. I was always striving to do anything to make him proud. As my Father passed on, I found myself empty, as I grew and began having relationships I would find myself with men whom were demanding and almost impossible to please. This continued through out my adult years. When I was in my early 20's I met a man that changed my life and made me crave something that I did not understand. I remember those familiar feelings of needing and wanting to please come rushing back and this too confused me. He added a twist that I did not expect, He punished me when i displeased him, or broke a rule he had laid down. Without knowing it I had my first taste (no matter how unhealty) of this lifestyle without knowing what it was. He started out as using anal as the utmost punishment for severe offences. It went as far as making me sit in the livingroom floor with my back to the T.V. while he would watch one of my favorite programs, to standing me in the corner, or a sound spanking with a belt. I did not understand why i craved this sort of attention and why it felt so comforting to me. So i would run from it, I would stay away weeks sometimes months at a time. I would start another relationship, and it would be missing what i had come acustom to. So no matter where I was, I would find myself calling Him begging Him to forgive me, and let me come home. He of course would with consequences to my behavior. Finally in my, ignorance of what I was, and my inability to accept that it was ok to have the feelings that I had He let me go. I stayed out of relationships for about 2 years when I had met my first husband, He was very vanilla and very abusive, it lasted for the longest 5 years of my life. A very good friend of mine took me by the hand, and sat me down He told me all about this wonderful lifestyle, He was tired of seeing me bounce from unhealthy relationships. He introduced me to the castle realm web site. I began reading, I soon realized that being submissive is not a feeling but a need, A need that is rooted deep within your soul and in your makeup as a person. That it is ok to want to please a man, to be there for him in all his needs, and it is ok for me to feel the need for correction when I fall short of being the best that I can for him and a safe way to do it. I will always be submissive, in or out of this lifestyle because it is part of who I am. I choose to want to give my gift to a man who knows what it is that I offer, one who will cherrish it, nurture it, and help it grow into something beautiful. cricket

"To Every Guy"

THIS IS HOW EVERY GIRL SHOULD BE TREATED

To every guy that's said, "Sex CAN wait"To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful."To every guy that was never too busy to drive across town to see her.To every guy that gives her flowers and a card when she is sick or down.To every guy who has given her flowers just because thats how he rolls.To every guy that said he would die for her.To every guy that really would.To every guy that did what she wanted to do.To every guy that cried in front of her. ....To every guy that she cried in front of...To every guy that holds hands with her.To every guy that kisses her with meaning.To every guy that hugs her when she's sad.To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all.To every guy who would give their jacket up for her.To every guy that calls to make sure she got home safe.To every guy that would sit and wait for her for hours just to see her for ten minutes.....To every guy that would give his seat up...To every guy that just wants to cuddle.To every guy that reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what.To every guy who told his secrets to her.To every guy that tried to show how much he cared through every word and every breath.To every guy that thought maybe this could be the one.To every guy that believed in her dreams.To every guy that would have done anything so she could achieve them.To every guy that never laughed at her when she told him her dreams.To every guy that walked her to her car and opened the door.To every guy that gave his heart.To every guy who prays that she is happy even if you are not with her.Not many girls appreciate nice guys anymore...And because of this, there are not many left out there...I guarantee 90% of the men on your page will not repost this cuz they care more about their imageIf you are a nice guy repost this with:"This is how every girl should be treated."If you are a girl that thinks every guy should treat a girl this wayrepost this with: "To Every Guy
THIS IS HOW EVERY GIRL SHOULD BE TREATED, and i agree 100%

5 Things a submissive wants from her Dominant

5 Things a submissive wants from her Dominant
　
A Submissive's Wishlist
I have shared with all those submissives looking what dominants are looking for and now I will be turning the tables. Submissives are altogether different and they look for completely different things in a man or woman. Once again, I will be refraining from the character traits we look for in any other type of relationship as well and try to focus on things that are specific to BDSM.
1.) I want to know that there will be consequences when I disobey and that he will consistently apply them:
This never seemed quite as important to me as it is now. I have also heard this wish from so many other submissives that I could put it in this list. We know that sometimes dominants fall in love too and that they care, but it should not mean that one of the things that are critical should be neglected because they are afraid of hurting us. A submissive becomes despondent when he or she has done something wrong and the only way to move past it sometimes, is to face and take that punishment in such a way that the dominant can only be proud of you. That punishment is the only thing that helps me move on and I know that many others feel the same way. No, it is not a way to get spanked or beaten. It is not a way to force the dominant to play with me. It is critical to my well being to know that I will be handled in the way I need to be able to move forward. I do not enjoy punishment and I do not know a whole lot of submissives who actually do, therefore I hope that dominants reading this will know that this is not topping from the bottom.
2.) I want to know that he or she can control him or herself.How can a dominant control a submissive if he or she is unable to control him or herself? Just a question that I have seen many times. I want to know that the dominant I choose is in control of his or her own life and emotions. I do not get turned on by whiny wannabe dominants. There are many others like me. Any dominant reading this who has problems controlling a temper or a habit, please work on this before you try to dominate me. It is hard enough to do everything as perfectly as I can, without having to think of all the things I need to avoid to not face that temper. A dominant that screams and shouts to get things done, is not attractive.
3.) I want to know that the dominant is well versed in the techniques of play and the toys.
I want to know that I will be safe and that my dominant knows what he or she is doing. If the dominant is new and there is chemistry, I would want to know that the dominant is willing and committed to going for training with a mentor. I do not want to be with someone who will hurt me unintentionally. I want to feel safe and cared for. Please do not advertise yourself as experienced if you aren't!!!
4.) I want to know that his dominant understands and knows the psyche of a submissive.
I do not want to be with someone who is looking for a slut or a tart and nothing else. I am looking for someone that knows that I want to serve and that I am not a doormat who wants to be abused. I am looking for the man who knows that I need to be controlled and I need to give my all. There is no halfway, and I need to know that all of me is not too much or that this person will not see me as needy or co-dependent. Someone who knows the heart of a submissive will not shrink back from that slap in the face occasionally or doing that humiliation scene I so desperately crave. Someone who knows the heart of a submissive will not trample on the small things I need to do. A dominant will never berate me as weak or desperate.
5.) I want a responsible dominant.
If you are expecting me to stop working, then you better be able to support me. I expect a person to know that he or she can take care of me if he or she wants a 24/7 submissive. Make sure that there is enough money to feed, house and clothe me at least. If I am still working, do not take advantage of that fact to stop working yourself. I do not need a man or woman that will demand my all at home to take all the money I work hard for too. If you are a loser like this, don't even look my way. I am not interested.
Responsibility does not end with money either. A dominant is responsible for my emotional wellbeing as well and for my physical safety. Please see to it that you can do this and are willing to.Given all of the above, I know this sounds like a long list of demands. I know this is not very submissive, but my submission does not come for free or cheaply. If I give my all, I expect to know that I will be safe, well looked after and safe. See, being a dominant is not as easy as it looks
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proceeding artical was copied from the following link...
I got the following artical from this link http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/940593/5_things_a_submissive_wants_from_a_pg2.html?cat=7 it was written by Bea Amor

A Question

I've taken a long look at myself, I know what I want in the way of a Dom or Master. But I have lost myself as a submissive. I know that it is still in me, but it seems unreachable. It was early in my journey, as a submissive, that I was pushed back into role of a vanilla girlfriend then later a vanilla wife. Along the way I pushed all the passion I had to be a submissive deep inside me so deep that I am not sure if I can re-connect with it. It is as if I have desired it for so long and not being able to reach the goal I had set for myself it has become another unreachable dream.
My husband has decided that he wants to start putting more and more of the lifestyle back in our relationship, and that is great....but we have atempted it so many times and then abandoned it, that I am having trouble taking it seriously. I am so afraid that we would get it started and then just fall back into the vanilla rutine again that I am afraid to embrace it to surrender to it just to have it crumble around me once again. How do I get passed these feelings, so that I may once again be able to surrender myself as a submissive?

A Question

I've taken a long look at myself, I know what I want in the way of a Dom or Master. But I have lost myself as a submissive. I know that it is still in me, but it seems unreachable. It was early in my journey, as a submissive, that I was pushed back into role of a vanilla girlfriend then later a vanilla wife. Along the way I pushed all the passion I had to be a submissive deep inside me so deep that I am not sure if I can re-connect with it. It is as if I have desired it for so long and not being able to reach the goal I had set for myself it has become another unreachable dream.
My husband has decided that he wants to start putting more and more of the lifestyle back in our relationship, and that is great....but we have atempted it so many times and then abandoned it, that I am having trouble taking it seriously. I am so afraid that we would get it started and then just fall back into the vanilla rutine again that I am afraid to embrace it to surrender to it just to have it crumble around me once again. How do I get passed these feelings, so that I may once again be able to surrender myself as a submissive?