three reasons why you would want to be released from any Dom...

The first reason i would want released from a Dom is clearly abuse, i am not a punching bag i am a submissive. The second is a breach in trust, if trust is not there then how could i submit to being tied up or blind folded? The 3rd reason is if i take the time to follow orders, and complete tasks, write emails, and be online for a session, and the Dom does not enforce those orders or take the time to check the work i have poured my heart into, or to answer a simple email then what is the point in trying to continue.

Abuse vs BDsm

healthy BDSM relationship involves mutual co-operation and consent, as well as education, discussion and respect. An abusive relationship is devoid of these aspects; instead of allowing two (or more) people to explore their deepest fantasies in a protective constructive way, they allow one person to control another without their explicit consent, and without allowing them the right to stop what is happening to them. Even those whip wielding dominatrices HAVE to stop if their submissive says they want to stop. Responsible and loving practitioners of any BDSM practice will take many measures to keep their practices safe. These include: Pre-play negations Educational workshops Having a safe word – preferably two (one for slow down, one for stop completely) Having a discussion on soft limits and hard limits, and not breaking them without full prior discussion Discussions and reassurances afterwards, particularly if a scene has gotten very emotional The use of contraceptives (unless in total agreement about not using them) Safety equipment such as first aid kits and paramedic scissors (if one person is tied up and starts to panic, releasing them quickly is of utmost importance) Abusive relationships tend to have the following characteristics: Coercion Physical/emotional abuse Loss of freedom + Isolation Of course there are many more aspects to an abusive relationship, but these are three that can be confused with BDSM. Certain people will also claim that they are practicing BDSM when they are in fact abusing their partner – this usually happens if the individual is unfamiliar with actual BDSM practices, and believes their partner is more experienced and ‘knows best’.

Submission

Submission: The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. Submission is not about being used, submission is about being of use In order to be successful at anything you must first become knowledgable on the subject. Submissiveness is an often misunderstood behavior. To those who are familiar with the submissive lifestyle they know that submission is an act of personal strength and not a display of weakness. Submission should NEVER be imposed or forced upon anyone. Becoming a submissive should not be taken lightly, it is not a game to be played. It is a lifestyle choice. It is a commitment to put someones wants and needs in front of your own. It is giving yourself completely to another. It is a matter of the heart to open yourself up, to be willing to let someone else take control, to be open to change. It is about being completely honest about yourself to let someone in to your very soul. It is about servitude, it is the willingness to let go to let some one else rule your world. It is about sacrificing your self and your time to make someone else happy. To put His needs and desires ahead of your own. It is about trust and dedication. Being a submissive is not about being a doormat for people to walk on, It does not mean you are week. It takes a lot of strength and self control to become exactly what someone else needs.

Hopeful

I had all but given up on the lifestyle altogether, Then i met Him, well...for the second time. The first time we met we did not mesh at all. He seemed to me to young to be my Dom at that time, actually and honestly i now believe that i was not ready for Him. I am so ready for this to be (it). To finally have that ohhh so special man that is worthy of the gift i offer him. I begin this journey cautiously, yet full of hope that He will be the One i serve till the end of my time in this wonderful world we live in. I want to put my trust and faith in Him, and i am sure in time He will earn that faith and trust.I have waited so long for someone who wants this life as badly as i do. For now though i am a tad bit afraid, yet full of aw and wonderment.

I long for Him

A Dom whom is working with me had me write a response to one of his articles Sir, The article that you had me read, brought back some old familer feelings. What you call helplessness i do not see it that way I call it willingness. Let me explain, as someone whom was a very willing slave, when my Master took me to be his slave i felt very free. I was finally free to be the person i was truly meant to be. I was very willing to let Him shape me and form me to be what he wanted and needed me to be, And in doing so, in letting go and trusting him, I was more able to let go of old vices and behaviors that had led me down a very destructive path. The more i was willing to let go of, the more he gave me. I went from being a self destructive door mat, to a very strong and confident woman. In my willingness to let him make me feel helpless, to him and him alone, allowed me the voice and confidence to tell others in my life no. In totally opening up and trusting in him, allowing him to see me in all my nakedness from my skin to my soul, i learned how to love and be loved unconditionally. When i was serving or being of service to my Master, I was confident that i was flawless. One way to let you see what i am talking about is by adding this poem i wrote, 

I long for Him to know.... 

 I long to kneel before Him

 I long for Him to gaze down upon me Hungry for what he sees 

Hungry for what I offer him

I long for him to consume me to make me his mind, body, and soul

 I long to be his alone, to serve him, 

to please him

 I long for him to know every breath I take is his

 that my heart beats because his heart beats

 I long for him to know that each desire I have is his

 because he alows me to desire him

 I long for him to know that every thought I have that every dream I dream are thoughts and dreams of Him 

I long for him to know threw my actions that He is my Master

 I long for him to know that I serve him out of want and need

 I long for him to know that without him I am truly lost and incomplete.

Submission

Submission: The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. Submission is not about being used, submission is about being of use In order to be successful at anything you must first become knowledgable on the subject. Submissiveness is an often misunderstood behavior. To those who are familiar with the submissive lifestyle they know that submission is an act of personal strength and not a display of weakness. Submission should NEVER be imposed or forced upon anyone.

Something I think needs said

To All Dead Beat Parents.....
Do you know what you are missing? Have you ever really thought about it?
All the hugs and kisses the skinned knees the tears that you whipe away when
things in this world seem to hard? How many goodnights and bedtime stories have
you missed? How many questions why? Why is the grass green? why does my hair grow?
How many I love you? How many little leage games and hollaring "Thats my boy/girl!!!"
How many monsters have you scared out of closets? and chased from under the bed? Look in your wallet and see if that dollar that you refuse to pay to child support is worth all of that priceless stuff money could never buy??? How much would it cost you to pic up the phone and hear your childs voice? Is it really out of your way to pick your child up for the weekend? Are you to busy for that hug and kiss? You were not to busy to make the child
STAND UP For whats RIGHT Quit being a DEAD BEAT Parent