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Thursday, October 31, 2013

my true desire..

As i sit here staring at the blank screen....Thinking of reasons not to defy my Sir, The biggest one comes to mind....
BECAUSE I REALLY TRULY DESIRE TO BE CONTROLLED. The biggest problem with this is, that there is a true rebel inside of me whom has never been able to be tamed, No matter how deeply the desire to do well and obey that rebel peeks its head out and takes over. The issue with this is that i do not wish to in any shape or form Disappoint my Sir the thought of His disappointment doubled with Him being inconvenienced by interrupting His day,with having to stop and correct and/or punish me weighs heavy on my heart. It is my true hearts desire to be pleasing to my Sir, to be someone whom He can be proud of.

Not following the rules and orders of my Sir does not accomplish this. When His tone changes and i can hear the disappointment in his voice i can almost see the look he would be giving me it breaks my heart it is all i can do not to cry. When my Sir sets down guidelines and rules He has them in place for a reason, when i do not follow them it is disrespectful to Him and the time He took to put them in place. i am not sure why i have such trouble in relinquishing control, i just know that is my hearts desire to be obedient. i do know i am going to work harder at being what i know i can be for my Sir.

i do not want him to release me, to give up on me. i know i can be a challenge, but i also know that i have got it in me to be a very obedient submissive. i just need to let go and be open to the changes he is trying to make to assure i accomplish this. i need to learn that when i am in control things never turn out very well therefore it is important that someone else make choices for me. Smoking for me is not a good choice, i have COPD this is why Sir has set down the rule that i smoke every 45 minutes so that i can begin to let them go and quit altogether.

He does not want to me to smoke pot without permission and i have done this a couple of times. i need to learn that i am no longer allowed to do what i want when i want. i have done so for so long that this is proving to be very difficult for me. my Sir asked me what he needed to do to get it through to me that i am no longer in control, that i am not my own boss any longer. i am quite sure that when i am truly in His presence i will learn this very quickly. That is why i think it important that we meet sooner rather than later.

When i am being defiant its not actually me in control it is that pesky rebel, when the rebel comes out it as if i am no longer at the wheel just merely a shocked passenger. i can feel the struggle and fight going on within me but it is usually the rebel who wins out that has the louder voice. Then when it comes time to fess up and be honest about my discretion the rebel tends to push me under the bus to disappear, Then when asked why i did such things i am left speechless and tong tied. Do i think that this should excuse me from consequences? No i do not but rather i think i should be held accountable in such a way that it reaches the rebel inside of me.

I think that is why it is very important for me that my Sir does not let things slide, that he hold me accountable for all of my discretions. i know i really want to work toward being a better me and putting that rebel finally to rest. i do not want the rebel in control of me any longer, i want my Sir to be control. i want to follow His rules and guidance, and be a pleasure to Him. i want to be obedient for my Sir rather than disobedient in doing what i want.

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

The Yearning

The Yearning



The blood is flowing.
I can feel it in my veins.
It's rising to the surface,
somehow searching for the pain.
My tears are waiting and hiding
behind my eyes.
Tormenting screams wanting
to hear my cries.
There are voices screaming
inside my head.
I can not feel myself
It is as if my soul is dead.
I can hear the echoes.
They seem to never cease.
They are reaching through
the darkness.
I am grasping for serenity.
I am yearning for total peace

Free

Free

I lay before you, stripped bare in a sense,
devoid of pretense.
My thoughts and secrets revealed,
their intent now known to you, and only you.
I feel open, not bare, mentally and physically
for what I have expressed to you, and only you.
You've seen a side of me hidden for quite some time,
due to fear of opening up, again;
letting someone see my wildest side, my vulnerable side.
My wall has been crumbling, piece by piece, knowingly,
with my own feelings expressed
clearly, concisely, honestly.
Yes, you've seen all sides of me,
and I lie before you now,
free

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Article; Disappointment

Last night i upset Sir, actually i really pissed him off. W/we were talking on the phone, He was being serious and i was really, honestly being a total brat, i was disrespectful,in back talking Him and correcting Him. Instantly His tone changed, it caught my attention in such a way that it immediately changed my whole demeanor. my head went down and my hands involuntarily went behind my back. Suddenly my tone became softer and i became more obedient more docile. The words he said became like tiny razor blades cutting at my heart. Honestly i have never had anyone put me in my place quicker.

When he told me i was being dominant and acting like a switch, and that i was not acting very submissive at all. It caught my breath as if he had reached threw the phone and slapped me in the face. He asked if i wanted him to train me as a switch or a Dom, OMG...my heart began to crack, the tears started to slowly trickle down my cheeks. Then he proceeded to tell me he was not at all happy with me, i could hear the disappointment in his voice. He could have beaten me within an inch of my life and it would not have hurt me near as much. And that did it i really started to cry, i had to ask for a second to compose myself.

i am very grateful to him for making me actually feel like a sub...i have not had those feelings in a very long time. i really think i may have met my match!! Have i finally found that someone whom can change this girl, who can tame me? Deep inside if i want to be honest with myself, i think i have.



Friday, October 25, 2013

conditioning

Conditioning is a form of mind control, it is very important for the Master/sub relationship, And for me the part of BDsm that really turns me on. There are 2types of conditioning, that of the mind, and sexual conditioning, which is the control of orgasms i do not understand exactly why mind control turns me on. It could be that i really get off on being told what to do when and how to do it. And the thrill of knowing if i do not do it correctly i will be punished. Physical punishment really has no effect on me considering i am a pain slut. But if you add talking to me and getting in my head with the physical punishment, then you have me hooked. Example..Standing facing the wall waiting for punishment, Master steps behind you and asks why are you being punished, you answer then he proceeds with the punishment, talking to you the entire time, telling you why it disappointed Him ect... this has proven quite effective for me. i love the idea of someone controlling me with just a look or a hand jester. i know it sounds very basic but the basic way usually gets better results.

Thursday, October 24, 2013

A very long day

Yesterday, was a very difficult day for me. All week i have been able to talk to Sir either on the computer or on the phone. Well i was hardly able to talk to Him, and to my surprise i missed Him...a lot. It surprised me a great deal, i'm really not that type of person, to become caught up so quickly. There is something about Him, something that i can not put my finger on. He is different from other Doms i have talked to. He excites me, i feel full of life when we are spending time together on the phone. Hopefully i will have enough alone time today to train with Him online. i really think if i upset Him, or disappointed Him, it would hurt me to my heart.

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

three reasons why you would want to be released from any Dom...

The first reason i would want released from a Dom is clearly abuse, i am not a punching bag i am a submissive. The second is a breach in trust, if trust is not there then how could i submit to being tied up or blind folded? The 3rd reason is if i take the time to follow orders, and complete tasks, write emails, and be online for a session, and the Dom does not enforce those orders or take the time to check the work i have poured my heart into, or to answer a simple email then what is the point in trying to continue.

Abuse vs BDsm

healthy BDSM relationship involves mutual co-operation and consent, as well as education, discussion and respect. An abusive relationship is devoid of these aspects; instead of allowing two (or more) people to explore their deepest fantasies in a protective constructive way, they allow one person to control another without their explicit consent, and without allowing them the right to stop what is happening to them. Even those whip wielding dominatrices HAVE to stop if their submissive says they want to stop. Responsible and loving practitioners of any BDSM practice will take many measures to keep their practices safe. These include: Pre-play negations Educational workshops Having a safe word – preferably two (one for slow down, one for stop completely) Having a discussion on soft limits and hard limits, and not breaking them without full prior discussion Discussions and reassurances afterwards, particularly if a scene has gotten very emotional The use of contraceptives (unless in total agreement about not using them) Safety equipment such as first aid kits and paramedic scissors (if one person is tied up and starts to panic, releasing them quickly is of utmost importance) Abusive relationships tend to have the following characteristics: Coercion Physical/emotional abuse Loss of freedom + Isolation Of course there are many more aspects to an abusive relationship, but these are three that can be confused with BDSM. Certain people will also claim that they are practicing BDSM when they are in fact abusing their partner – this usually happens if the individual is unfamiliar with actual BDSM practices, and believes their partner is more experienced and ‘knows best’.

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Submission

Submission: The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. Submission is not about being used, submission is about being of use In order to be successful at anything you must first become knowledgable on the subject. Submissiveness is an often misunderstood behavior. To those who are familiar with the submissive lifestyle they know that submission is an act of personal strength and not a display of weakness. Submission should NEVER be imposed or forced upon anyone. Becoming a submissive should not be taken lightly, it is not a game to be played. It is a lifestyle choice. It is a commitment to put someones wants and needs in front of your own. It is giving yourself completely to another. It is a matter of the heart to open yourself up, to be willing to let someone else take control, to be open to change. It is about being completely honest about yourself to let someone in to your very soul. It is about servitude, it is the willingness to let go to let some one else rule your world. It is about sacrificing your self and your time to make someone else happy. To put His needs and desires ahead of your own. It is about trust and dedication. Being a submissive is not about being a doormat for people to walk on, It does not mean you are week. It takes a lot of strength and self control to become exactly what someone else needs.

Monday, October 21, 2013

Hopeful

I had all but given up on the lifestyle altogether, Then i met Him, well...for the second time. The first time we met we did not mesh at all. He seemed to me to young to be my Dom at that time, actually and honestly i now believe that i was not ready for Him. I am so ready for this to be (it). To finally have that ohhh so special man that is worthy of the gift i offer him. I begin this journey cautiously, yet full of hope that He will be the One i serve till the end of my time in this wonderful world we live in. I want to put my trust and faith in Him, and i am sure in time He will earn that faith and trust.I have waited so long for someone who wants this life as badly as i do. For now though i am a tad bit afraid, yet full of aw and wonderment.